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Are you willing to ask for help?

One of the biggest lessons I have learned from taking Nick in his wheelchair with us wherever we go is to ask for help from others.  A few weeks ago we went to Portland Oregon to see the new Cirque du Soleil show titled Crystal.  It was amazing by the way.  We had never been to the Moda Center with Nick and weren’t sure about their accommodations for accessibility.  I could have been even more proactive and called ahead, but I didn’t this time.

After going through their security, I approached two people who looked official dressed alike in matching red and black coats, holding radios.  They took one look at our entourage and said, come with us, we can help you.  I didn’t even get the chance to ask for help.  We were introduced to Destiny.  She patiently answered Nick’s every question as she guided us through the building to our seats.  She wasn’t expecting it when we handed her a tip, but we keep $5 bills on hand as a thank-you to those who we feel go above and beyond their job description.  She seemed grateful for the recognition and we were certainly grateful for her kind treatment of our Nick.  You can tell by her picture what a sweet person she is.

We have experienced this kind and thoughtful treatment from others whenever we travel with Nick.  A few years ago I decided to begin asking for help from others even when I don’t have Nick with me.  Situations like asking someone if they could hold a door open when I am struggling carrying something, or asking if they could scoot in their chair in a crowded restaurant so I can pass by.  That way, I am not standing there getting upset that no one is helping me.  I avoid the frustration of unmet expectations.

People generally seem willing to help if they are asked.  Most of us live within our own minds and are not always cognizant of what is happening to others around us.  I have found that if I speak up and ask for assistance, I do receive it most of the time.  Of course, there have been times that the other person just looks at me as if I was crazy to ask, and walks away not helping me.  But those times are few and far between and I don’t let that person change my perspective about others.

Be willing to ask for help.  You will meet amazing people like we have and your life will be enriched.  I would really like to hear your experiences with this idea.

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Announcing that I have finished a book with the working title of “The Fairy Fort.” I am currently pitching it to publishers. Keep checking back to watch the progress of my newest novel.

Here is a quick glimpse of the story.

Sarah Doherty is an 18-year-old living in rural Ireland at the tail end of the Great War. Plagued by severe epilepsy, she is protected by her parents and lives a sheltered, secluded, lonely life. The Fae, local Irish fairies, interfere with her life. She falls forward a century in time through the local fairy fort of standing stones. She had a seizure in 1918 and woke up in 2020. The 21st century world includes life-saving prescriptions, physical comforts and the independence and freedom she seeks. The locals are welcoming and Andy Mclaughlin, a handsome young historian, is intriguing. She doesn’t want to return home.

Then a letter arrives from Boston divulging the story of Sarah and Andy’s lives that are deeply entwined in the previous century. They are not yet in love but as they seek to verify the letter through online resources, they feel a growing obligation to their unborn family and to each other. What would happen to their posterity living in Boston if they don’t return to 1918? Even if they do make it back, her parents can never know what happened to her or that would change everything.

This Young Adult time-travel romance explores the question: Do we have the freedom to make choices or is free will an elaborate illusion?

This is my third book. I love reading time travel romances. I am an advocate for epilepsy awareness because my 43-year-old son has intractable epilepsy. As a genealogist specializing in Irish research, I live part of the year in the village where the story is based. I wrote the book to help young adults understand that difficult situations can change your life. Sometimes miraculously.