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Are Parents Responsible?

When you see a toddler having a fit, do you judge the parents and believe it is their fault? Do you feel that they should be doing something?  Often we all do.  I don’t believe that parents are responsible for their children’s mistakes. However I do believe that parents have the duty to teach their children correct principles. Children need to know right from wrong to the best of their intellectual capacity at the time. It is not kind to the child or society to neglect this part of their education.

Some parents do feel responsible for their kids action. Perhaps a portion of this is normal. I certainly have felt a swelling in my heart when my kids did something great and conversely felt dread and some despair when their actions were awful.

The courts of the US have been wrestling with this question. Are parents responsible when children commit a crime?  They can’t agree on it either.

I watched a short video yesterday. The young man, probably about 7 or 8 years old, has the same Lennox Gastaut Syndrome as our Nick. The mom put an empty plastic bottle on the floor about 10 feet away from the boy and asked him to pick it up. Haltingly he walked over and slowly bent over and retrieved the bottle. The boy smiled while the Mom jumped up and down clapping and cheering. I was cheering to. It was a huge accomplishment. Is she responsible for him gaining that skill? I am sure that she is a big factor but she is not accountable for either his successes or his disabilities.

When you see Nick drooling, do you blame me? Perhaps you think I should wipe his face. After all, we do have a towel around his neck constantly available. Sometimes I do read judgment in other people’s expressions. Or they tell me, “Eva you need to get that.” Then there are other times when someone notices and gently wipes his chin while exclaiming “here Nick, let me get that for you.” I appreciate the help. I can’t do it all, all the time.

Let’s all commit to reserve judgment and help others when we can!

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Announcing that I have finished a book with the working title of “The Fairy Fort.” I am currently pitching it to publishers. Keep checking back to watch the progress of my newest novel.

Here is a quick glimpse of the story.

Sarah Doherty is an 18-year-old living in rural Ireland at the tail end of the Great War. Plagued by severe epilepsy, she is protected by her parents and lives a sheltered, secluded, lonely life. The Fae, local Irish fairies, interfere with her life. She falls forward a century in time through the local fairy fort of standing stones. She had a seizure in 1918 and woke up in 2020. The 21st century world includes life-saving prescriptions, physical comforts and the independence and freedom she seeks. The locals are welcoming and Andy Mclaughlin, a handsome young historian, is intriguing. She doesn’t want to return home.

Then a letter arrives from Boston divulging the story of Sarah and Andy’s lives that are deeply entwined in the previous century. They are not yet in love but as they seek to verify the letter through online resources, they feel a growing obligation to their unborn family and to each other. What would happen to their posterity living in Boston if they don’t return to 1918? Even if they do make it back, her parents can never know what happened to her or that would change everything.

This Young Adult time-travel romance explores the question: Do we have the freedom to make choices or is free will an elaborate illusion?

This is my third book. I love reading time travel romances. I am an advocate for epilepsy awareness because my 43-year-old son has intractable epilepsy. As a genealogist specializing in Irish research, I live part of the year in the village where the story is based. I wrote the book to help young adults understand that difficult situations can change your life. Sometimes miraculously.