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Do you suffer from the Impostor Syndrome?

This morning, I got notification that an article I had written had been published in the Rare Patient News.  The topic is traveling when you child has special needs.   I was excited to learn about it and was reminded of a skit by Steve Martin.  The new phone book arrived in the mail (this was pre-contact lists on your smart phone.) Steve dances around saying, “The new phone books here, the new phone books here, I am somebody now.”  It is a funny skit and we always laugh when we think about it.

Humor is based on reality.

Do we allow ourselves to be validated by some external situation or do we know how to value ourselves?

This past weekend at the Surrey International Writers conference, I heard a couple of presenters talk about this.  They called it the Imposter Syndrome.  It is when we devalue our accomplishments and ourselves.  We are afraid that others will see that we are a fraud, an imposter.  It affects men and women in equal numbers.

Although I have had this experience before, I didn’t know that there was a name for it.  I can really relate to Steve Martin’s character when he says, “I’m in print, things are going to start happening to me now.”

It is always exciting to see our goals form and take shape and then manifest into reality.  That doesn’t mean we have more value the more goals we have achieved.  I recognize, particularly being Nick’s mom, that value is not tied to accomplishment.  That is easy to recognize in other people, and harder to acknowledge personally.

I am challenging each of us, that includes me, to value myself for being me,  including all the unique and amazing things.

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Announcing that I have finished a book with the working title of “The Fairy Fort.” I am currently pitching it to publishers. Keep checking back to watch the progress of my newest novel.

Here is a quick glimpse of the story.

Sarah Doherty is an 18-year-old living in rural Ireland at the tail end of the Great War. Plagued by severe epilepsy, she is protected by her parents and lives a sheltered, secluded, lonely life. The Fae, local Irish fairies, interfere with her life. She falls forward a century in time through the local fairy fort of standing stones. She had a seizure in 1918 and woke up in 2020. The 21st century world includes life-saving prescriptions, physical comforts and the independence and freedom she seeks. The locals are welcoming and Andy Mclaughlin, a handsome young historian, is intriguing. She doesn’t want to return home.

Then a letter arrives from Boston divulging the story of Sarah and Andy’s lives that are deeply entwined in the previous century. They are not yet in love but as they seek to verify the letter through online resources, they feel a growing obligation to their unborn family and to each other. What would happen to their posterity living in Boston if they don’t return to 1918? Even if they do make it back, her parents can never know what happened to her or that would change everything.

This Young Adult time-travel romance explores the question: Do we have the freedom to make choices or is free will an elaborate illusion?

This is my third book. I love reading time travel romances. I am an advocate for epilepsy awareness because my 43-year-old son has intractable epilepsy. As a genealogist specializing in Irish research, I live part of the year in the village where the story is based. I wrote the book to help young adults understand that difficult situations can change your life. Sometimes miraculously.