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Choosing the better part.

Nick doesn’t feel obligated to do things just because it is expected.  He carves out his own path in most social settings.

Our oldest son Ryan was getting married to Tiffany in May of 2001.  Karen and I organized a bridal shower for her in early April.   Her mom and sisters were coming up from Portland for the event.  We were all busy with tax season, in addition to the preparation for the shower. It was kind of hectic.  Tiffany was going to be my first daughter-in-law.   I wanted everything to be perfect.

The morning of the shower as we were talking about all the final arrangements, Nick looked at me with a questioning look and asked, “We see Tiffany naked?”  I was horrified and said, “Of course not!”  Then he said, “She have a shower alone?”  I then realized that he didn’t understand what a bridal shower was, he thought we were going to watch her shower.  No wonder he was so confused.

We explained that it was a party for the girls and that he was going out to dinner with dad and the other guys.  He said ok.

I was stressed about the food being right.  I was stressed about the decorations being beautiful.  I was stressed about cleaning the house. Ok, I was stressed about everything.  I really wasn’t focusing very much on Nick.

Just before the bridal shower was scheduled to start, all the men got ready to go out for the evening.  Nick didn’t want to go with them.  He wanted to stay home, but Arden took him anyway.

When they all got back home after the party was over, Nick saw the presents and the used wrapping paper, all the food and the cake that was left, as well as the decorations all around the living room, he said, “Next time I be at the shower, I not go with Dad.”  He felt that he had missed the better event that evening.

And that has been his opinion ever since.  Whenever we have had a bridal or baby shower, Nick gets to stay and be at the party with all the girls, while the other guys have to leave.  Why would he want to just go out to dinner, when he can be at a party?

It doesn’t matter to him at all that there are no other men at the shower.  He knows where he wants to be.

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Announcing that I have finished a book with the working title of “The Fairy Fort.” I am currently pitching it to publishers. Keep checking back to watch the progress of my newest novel.

Here is a quick glimpse of the story.

Sarah Doherty is an 18-year-old living in rural Ireland at the tail end of the Great War. Plagued by severe epilepsy, she is protected by her parents and lives a sheltered, secluded, lonely life. The Fae, local Irish fairies, interfere with her life. She falls forward a century in time through the local fairy fort of standing stones. She had a seizure in 1918 and woke up in 2020. The 21st century world includes life-saving prescriptions, physical comforts and the independence and freedom she seeks. The locals are welcoming and Andy Mclaughlin, a handsome young historian, is intriguing. She doesn’t want to return home.

Then a letter arrives from Boston divulging the story of Sarah and Andy’s lives that are deeply entwined in the previous century. They are not yet in love but as they seek to verify the letter through online resources, they feel a growing obligation to their unborn family and to each other. What would happen to their posterity living in Boston if they don’t return to 1918? Even if they do make it back, her parents can never know what happened to her or that would change everything.

This Young Adult time-travel romance explores the question: Do we have the freedom to make choices or is free will an elaborate illusion?

This is my third book. I love reading time travel romances. I am an advocate for epilepsy awareness because my 43-year-old son has intractable epilepsy. As a genealogist specializing in Irish research, I live part of the year in the village where the story is based. I wrote the book to help young adults understand that difficult situations can change your life. Sometimes miraculously.