February 2017

Holidays and Traditions.

Nick loves holidays.  He looks forward to each one and remembers in great detail our family traditions surrounding that holiday.  These traditions need to remain the same year after year or he is upset with us. Tomorrow is Valentines Day, and Nick told me that we needed to wear red tomorrow and have cards to give

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Nicky’s Rocking Horse.

Even though it had been nice, Nicky’s second Christmas didn’t  meet my expectations.  Perhaps it was just an indication of where I was emotionally. We didn’t have any extra money and our families knew it.  Our siblings all asked what the boys wanted and they were showered with toys.  They were very generous.  Nicky wasn’t

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Please Nick, Please!

I believe that some of the best stories begin with, well, you see, there was this girl…. In 1992, when we moved out to Carnation, Nick was 13 and he fell in love.  That is pretty normal for a teenage boy. To Nick, Emilee Jo Soptich was the most beautiful girl he had met.  When

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Another Milestone.

In September, Arden and I were talking while driving in the car, when Nick piped up from the back seat, “I want to have a job.”  We reminded him that he had a job.  Nick has had a few different jobs supported by job coaches for the past 16 years.  It is a program that

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How do I live without you?

I have mentioned that Nick broke his ankle last week.  Well that has brought many unexpected experiences.  Some of them are more fun than others.  All have been memorable. Nick continues to amaze me.  Let me share this one story as an example.  He has been very tired since he broke his ankle.  One day this

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Priorities & Perspective.

We were without power for over 36 hours and although that can seem like a hardship to bear, we really were comfortable.  Arden has developed a backup-generator system that is automatic.  It runs the furnace, many of our appliances and the lights.  My main complaint is that we don’t have internet including our internet based

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Avoidance.

I believe that it is human nature to avoid doing something that we don’t want to do.  Either we think that it will be unpleasant or we aren’t sure of the outcome.  Will we be successful or will we fall flat on our face? Sometimes this procrastination pattern is subtle and not easily recognized.  At other times,

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Be Brave.

Nick loves music and he loves to sing.  He knows hundreds of songs with all of their verses.  We will sing together, sometimes for hours, but he usually won’t sing for others. Years ago we were at a party honoring our friend Paddy Bogside Doherty in Derry City, Northern Ireland.  Paddy had been awarded an honorary

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You fix this?

Nick broke his ankle yesterday.  He tripped.  We caught him and eased him to the floor.  He said he was ok, so we went on with our day.  He seemed a bit unsteady, but that is a common thing for him lately.  We increased our support with tranfers.  Hours later, after his weekly massage, he

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Helpless.

I was talking to another mom yesterday as she related to me a story that I knew well.  Her adult daughter had started seizing the day before, over 20 Grand mal seizures in a 2 hour period.  The mom wasn’t able to get the prescribed rescue meds into her daughter between the seizures.  That was

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